you need to go where you installed the files on your server.. for me this was my /Uni/ folder. To access it, the link would be
http://www.yoursite.com/unifoldername/
so mine is
http://www.dr-guild.com/Uni/
Once logged in, go to Addon Management
Scoll down and you will see some boxes. Click the browse button and find the file on your computer.
Fill in the version number manually by typing the numbers in.. remember the dots.
For home page, I usually put in
http://wowroster.net
when done, click add / update addon.
This will initiate the file upload. To make sure the other person gets it, they must make sure that when syncing, they are updating their add-ons.
Hope I answered all your questions.